Sara - this is sooooo good and super helpful! You are so right that unhealed grief comes out sideways.
And thanks for the reference to Bourgeault's critique of Wilber's 2017 essay (which I missed at the time). I loved her insight here: "greens think FOR oneness but FROM 'perception through differentiation;' how crazy-making is that? It’s a pretty significant developmental gap to navigate, causing their minds always to be out ahead of what their psyches can actually maintain. Hence the anger, the arrogance, and the hypocrisy."
Thank you again for reading, Julie! That Bourgeault essay helped me so much. I think Wilbur is right about a lot, but I also find him so irritating at times and couldn't fully put my finger on it until I read Bourgeault's thoughtful critique.
That green dichotomy *does* make a ton of sense the way she explains it. It makes me have way more compassion for others - and myself!
Same!! I agree about Wilber — finally realized he rubbed me the wrong way because he tends to downgrade emotional intelligence and treats the ineffable in heavy-handed ways, insisting on rationalizing it. But Bourgeault says it so much better. 🥰
Sara, I think you've nailed it here. No one else (that I've seen) has identified this so simply. I've been saying for awhile that I thought we would come to regret the lack of processing/grieving/healing we did around the pandemic...and...yeah.
One thing I've been thinking of but didn't get into here was how the loss of institutions like the church has led us to this mess. Like who would lead us in processing it? I think a president or even national politicians could possibly hold a memorial as a marker moment (I did appreciate how the Bidens did that first thing after inauguration). But really, true processing needs to be far more communal and smaller. It feels like we don't have many leaders left who are willing to call their people into that hard, brave, uncomfortable work?
I teach yin yoga every week, and during the fall, we focus on surrender and grief. But I have a few regulars who will tell me they'll be back in the winter because they don't want to be invited to think about those things every week. And that is coming from pretty spiritually-minded folks.
Sara - this is sooooo good and super helpful! You are so right that unhealed grief comes out sideways.
And thanks for the reference to Bourgeault's critique of Wilber's 2017 essay (which I missed at the time). I loved her insight here: "greens think FOR oneness but FROM 'perception through differentiation;' how crazy-making is that? It’s a pretty significant developmental gap to navigate, causing their minds always to be out ahead of what their psyches can actually maintain. Hence the anger, the arrogance, and the hypocrisy."
Thank you again for reading, Julie! That Bourgeault essay helped me so much. I think Wilbur is right about a lot, but I also find him so irritating at times and couldn't fully put my finger on it until I read Bourgeault's thoughtful critique.
That green dichotomy *does* make a ton of sense the way she explains it. It makes me have way more compassion for others - and myself!
Same!! I agree about Wilber — finally realized he rubbed me the wrong way because he tends to downgrade emotional intelligence and treats the ineffable in heavy-handed ways, insisting on rationalizing it. But Bourgeault says it so much better. 🥰
No you said it perfectly - thank you!
Sara, I think you've nailed it here. No one else (that I've seen) has identified this so simply. I've been saying for awhile that I thought we would come to regret the lack of processing/grieving/healing we did around the pandemic...and...yeah.
Thank you for articulating this.
...and yeah. Here we are.
One thing I've been thinking of but didn't get into here was how the loss of institutions like the church has led us to this mess. Like who would lead us in processing it? I think a president or even national politicians could possibly hold a memorial as a marker moment (I did appreciate how the Bidens did that first thing after inauguration). But really, true processing needs to be far more communal and smaller. It feels like we don't have many leaders left who are willing to call their people into that hard, brave, uncomfortable work?
I teach yin yoga every week, and during the fall, we focus on surrender and grief. But I have a few regulars who will tell me they'll be back in the winter because they don't want to be invited to think about those things every week. And that is coming from pretty spiritually-minded folks.